I'm being stalked, & there's nothing I can do about it [tw obviously]
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Posted 09 February 2021 - 09:10 PM
I live with a guy and his girl (bfs sis and her man), their kids and my own. My boyfriend is gone most of the time (long distance job).I didn't really pay attention to the guy, but as I continued ignoring him, he got pressed. He would get upset that I'd ignore him, he just made me uncomfortable. Well, I tried to be nicer and pay attention. Whatever right. Well, recently it's gotten a bit worse. I want to say back months ago with my old phone left behind me. I could've sworn he looked through it but brushed it off. "Nobody would. I'm ugly/undesirable and even if they did I'd be made fun of." Thing was my nudes were on there (because of reasons...) and I think he saw that. This is important for what I will write later. So, he was always wondering why I am the way I am (avoidant) as he's extroverted as hell and very normie, does not understand mental illness. He goes through his girl's phone (despite being a serial cheater, divorced and always arguing with her) and this makes me know he now knows I have borderline personality disorder, which I confided in HER ONLY. He sometimes would message me thru her phone. He stares at my ass. He eavesdrops on me. And recently he's overheard me doing my job as a phone sex operator moaning and started acting... nicer? Well, the thing that really tipped me off that he is obsessed with me was when he STOLE MY PHONE FOR AN ENTIRE FUCKING DAY. Look. I have borderline. I have favorite persons. But I never. Never. Ever would fucking steal someone's phone I hardly know?!!! Wtf?! This is why I think he saw nudes. He also LIED ABOUT IT and I had to confirm he had it by asking his children if they had it, when the little girl said "oh no, my dad had that." He said in text he didn't have it and the way he lies compulsively creeps me out like my step dad did. This is causing a downward spiral in my mental health. I am EXTREMELY more paranoid now because there is evidence. He tried to get in my phone. Well it gets worse. I've made it clear I'm even less likely to reciprocate now. I completely ignore him because I'm GENUINELY SCARED. It wasn't as bad when he just voiced his opinion, but after he stole my fucking device, I believe he has some sort of obsession with me for reasons I cannot understand. I'm aware he cheats on his girl constantly (everyone knows this as he did it in the past and often disappears for long hours despite not going to work) so i know he may have a sex problem. But that doesn't mean he should go for everyone. He knows I have a boyfriend and knows I'm not into him. He's "punishing" me. And when I called his girl he said "hi, this is (his name) is everything okay?" Like he almost NEEDS to get my attention or some shit. I'm terrified things will go further, I have no idea what to do because we pay rent to him. I can't report or anything, I can't do fucking shit. He scares me and it's affecting my alone time. I wonder if I'm being watched. I know he spies on his girl. But me? Who steals someone's phone?! I cant imagine what kind of low inhibitions one would have to do this. I am terrified now. I am extremely anxious all the time to the point of locking myself in my room all day, which may or may not have some more cameras just like the rest of the god damn house. I haven't told anyone, and if I told my bf I'm afraid it will get violent. I have no proof, and just as the guy denied me when I confronted him, he would likely deny me and I'm sure the whole family would gaslight me or not believe me, especially because he is conventionally attractive and I am not. I'm fucking terrified and I don't know why this man who is older than me cannot express his true opinions or feelings. I live in his house and there is nothing I can do. What does he want from me?!
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Posted 11 March 2021 - 12:18 PM
yeepi, on 09 Feb 2021 - 9:10 PM, said:
I'm terrified things will go further, I have no idea what to do because we pay rent to him. I can't report or anything, I can't do fucking shit. He scares me and it's affecting my alone time.
why you cannot report to the police? even if sexual assault hasnt happened (yet),
you are allowed to go in and have a chat with an officer (preferably female one) you will tell her your concerns, she will write them down, and this will go on record.
it is important to put it in record, because, if things escalate or if he tries to sexually assault you or anything similar to that, with a written report already inside on police records, he will be locked in sooner.
lock him in, and, if you want to lock him in, do report your concerns so they exist in record.
what do you have to lose? you have nothing to lose, you have only to win, if you report
cause 1) you sound scared, and reporting will help you by knowing that police is aware and 2)if he tries to sexually assault you they are going to lock him in faster with a previous record on his name
also, do listen to the person below,
because he is not healthy at all,
and children are not very safe living with this kind / type of people
all the best xxx
Burneraccount2004, on 10 Mar 2021 - 3:15 PM, said:
Please keep this man away from your children, he sounds disgusting and if i was his gf/wife i would’ve gotten out of there bc he sounds exactly like the abuser type
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Posted 06 April 2021 - 05:18 PM
guest-5, on 11 Mar 2021 - 12:18 PM, said:
why you cannot report to the police? even if sexual assault hasnt happened (yet),
you are allowed to go in and have a chat with an officer (preferably female one) you will tell her your concerns, she will write them down, and this will go on record.
it is important to put it in record, because, if things escalate or if he tries to sexually assault you or anything similar to that, with a written report already inside on police records, he will be locked in sooner.
lock him in, and, if you want to lock him in, do report your concerns so they exist in record.
what do you have to lose? you have nothing to lose, you have only to win, if you report
cause 1) you sound scared, and reporting will help you by knowing that police is aware and 2)if he tries to sexually assault you they are going to lock him in faster with a previous record on his name
also, do listen to the person below,
because he is not healthy at all,
and children are not very safe living with this kind / type of people
all the best xxx
I left with my girls and bf dw. Thank you
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