coping with triggering comments
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 12:04 PM
"you're so strict about your weight so did you know [x] that you eat has more calories than [y]? you don't show it yet but my coworker gained from it" and instantly, cue extreme panic and there goes that safe food straight out the window.
i guess this was more of a vent post but. (how) do you deal with triggering comments from people who don't know about your ED? just smiling through it while screaming internally or are there any ways to cope with them
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 12:10 PM
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 12:33 PM
JessicaX, on 03 May 2022 - 12:10 PM, said:
Know that you know A LOT MORE than others because of your eating disorder, smile graciously and pretend you are in the acting role of your life - "thank you so much for telling me this". This will unnerve them. Turn it into a game where you can get them to back down and then just move on. You know what you are doing as I'm fairly certain you will have thought about what is safe for you.
thank you so much for saying this, this calmed me down a lot
rationally i know it wouldn't make me gain because i'm very aware of my calories so i don't know why i freaked out so much
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 12:35 PM
however, ive always been annoyed by people who comment abt other peoples appearances, may it be abt their clothes, hair etc etc. i just stare at them when that happens and theyd be confused af. its fun to do haha
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 01:29 PM
skin_ee, on 03 May 2022 - 12:04 PM, said:
"you're so strict about your weight so did you know [x] that you eat has more calories than [y]? you don't show it yet but my coworker gained from it" and instantly, cue extreme panic and there goes that safe food straight out the window.
i guess this was more of a vent post but. (how) do you deal with triggering comments from people who don't know about your ED? just smiling through it while screaming internally or are there any ways to cope with them
I fucking hate when people say that shit.
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 01:30 PM
skin_ee, on 03 May 2022 - 12:04 PM, said:
"you're so strict about your weight so did you know [x] that you eat has more calories than [y]? you don't show it yet but my coworker gained from it" and instantly, cue extreme panic and there goes that safe food straight out the window.
i guess this was more of a vent post but. (how) do you deal with triggering comments from people who don't know about your ED? just smiling through it while screaming internally or are there any ways to cope with them
I just look at people and laugh. Of course i get triggered but the same people saying that are the same people cooking with full fat, full calorie, full disgusting- no regard for how they are making their food .
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 01:32 PM
normies can be such assholes sometimes. what gives anyone any right to police how i treat my body, what i eat, etc?
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 01:51 PM
I avoided dairy for a year then one person asked why- since it's not caloric at all and has many health benefits and I'm not allergic. Now I'm drinking yoghurt for every breakfast and dinner...
Opposite with bananas- my friend commented saying it has too much cal for a fruit. Now i can't make myself eat a whole banana...
I could eat only toast few months ago,now i eat only regular bread since "toast has more added sugar"...
It's fucking annoying...
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Posted 03 May 2022 - 06:19 PM
Another story - my mentor at my old job was openly disordered about her eating and whenever there were treats at a meeting, she’d make comments like “I’d rather barf than eat that” or “ew that’s disgusting” if offered a brownie or something. Not sure why it was so triggering, maybe because she’s so open about it, but it always made me feel weird.
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